Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Juggling Two Lovers: Steady Main Chick Vs Fleeting Side Chick.

It's a cold rainy morning and I don't feel like getting out of bed.
No, it's not the weather, I'm just moody.

I was going to grab my phone and get on Twitter, but then I thought, why not blog? It's been more than two months since my last post. Why?! Warrapened?!! How did my love for Blogger, my Steady Main Chick wax cold? How did Twitter the Fleeting Side Chick win?

Twitter is a safe place for me to vent. The feed back is instant, kind of like a sugar rush and there are loads of interesting/ funny/ crazy people on there, I've made some valuable connections, and I love it!

But it's fleeting.
There's often so much going on, and as I LOL and RT away, I find myself thinking about the need to document my thoughts. Sometimes, when I'm overwhelmed by the many thoughts in my head, I think about my mum and wish I could talk to her. Today, I struggled to remember some of the things she used to say and I thought, what if she wrote things down? What if she had a blog? What a treasure that would be!!

That's what this blog, My Place In Space is for. Chronicling my journey and documenting my life so I can map my trajectory. Someday, my children will wonder about me and if I'm not here, they'll read this. This is where I should be. So what's keeping me away?

Well, the thing about putting my thoughts here is that it feels somewhat permanent. Like, I'm sorta kinda blue right now, but it's only a matter of time before I put things in perspective and get over it. Spilling my guts might be therapeutic, but then, do I want the permanence writing brings?

Also, I want to be about love and light and "all things bright and beautiful". The news already has more than enough mood dampening material. There's no need to add to that and really, who cares?

Truth is, real life is not all sunny skies. There are up rainy days and cloudy days and while recording only the positive might help me to look back and stay thankful, it doesn't paint an accurate picture.

Do I want to be telling half truths, projecting a false image?
How do I balance my need to be authentic and real with the need to keep my business private?
I don't have the answers, but I'm sure I'll figure them out as I go along.

In one of my Psych courses, I learned about Memory Reconstruction. Simply put, our memories change over time and are affected by subsequent events. The human mind mixes events and fills in the gap, so when we try to recollect a memory, we often end up with a version that is different from actual events.

Writing things down helps keep memories intact and I'll keep that in mind when I make excuses not to document my thoughts and experiences.

The plan is to spend more time here this year, writing my stories and chronicling my journey. Looking back at how much I've evolved since I started blogging, and how you all who come here have enriched my life, I'm excited and I look forward to spending more time here, with my Steady Main Chick and all my family on this side.

Twitter, being the relentless Side Chick stays competing with Blogger for my attention but I have no plans of dumping her. I love my family on that side too, so I'll be juggling two lovers.

Can I successfully Juggle Twitter and Blogger without abandoning either?

Challenge Accepted!

It will be interesting to see how both families blend. I'm going to invite all of my Twitfam here and if you're part of this happy Blogfam already, you can join my Twitfam by following @Gbemisoke.
I look forward to sharing my journey with you and learning from you.

Thanks for coming by again and again.
May your dreams come true!
xxx

37 comments:

  1. First love...true love :D (well not always true, but tru in this case)

    I trust you'd make good this challenge ;)

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    1. Blogger is my first love for sure. Twitter is just so attractive and addictive and... you know, all those things that make a side chick attractive ;)

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  2. Nice one Gbemi. I've actually been on the lookout for your blog cos it has a way of inspiring me. Its good u're back 2dis Blogfam 4real. My rgds 2d family. Cheers! Checkout my Blog: www.faithaudu.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Faith!
      Been a while! Off to check your blog out!

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  3. Am Gonna start Blogging for my pearls to read nd c Mummy's Tot nd Views. Nice Dear. U stay inspiring me evrytime.xoxo

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    1. Yay!
      Start please. Drop a link here when you do, so we can share your journey.

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  4. Funny enuf, I thot of u yesterday. And I was like this Gbemi that said she would return to her first love has not kept her words o, lol.

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    1. My Blogger Mentor!!
      Thanks for not giving up on me. I haven't been to yours in a while. I'm fixing that stat!

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    1. Thanks Toin!
      I appreciate your always being there. As a member of both my Twitfam and Blogfam, you have dual citizenship ;) Special!!

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  6. Me too! Me too! (-_-)// I have dual citizenship! X_X

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  7. Oh by the I wrote here ----> http://highlandblue.wordpress.com/2012/12/26/dusk-folu/ and mentioned you! :D thanks for being an inspiration!

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    1. I just read that post! Thanks for the "shalla" lol
      Meeting your brother, what an experience! Life :)

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  8. you can document your private though in an old fashioned journal? i know we dont like to write with ink much these days but that's a way to go...no?

    how r u m'am?

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    1. That's definitely an option!
      I used to do that long before the interwebs showed up. I'll give it a shot!
      Thanks Aloted, I'm good, thanks. Trust that Baale and Bionic are doing great too.
      xxx

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  9. Well, well.. The reason i started writing my thoughts down..

    I go back and read somethings i've written and don't know what i was thinking.. I am trying to create a balance as well but mine is virtual vs real..

    Oh well, keep writing, we will keep reading..

    Toodles

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    1. lol. So you have a side chick too? Group hug.
      I love reading your thoughts, please keep at it :)
      xxx

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  10. Happy New Year Hun... Great to see you back.

    Yep.. I hope to see more of you. xxx

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    1. Thanks DOHK!
      You have dual citizenship, so we're always in touch ;)
      xxx

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  11. I am going to swing 'blogger' and 'twitter' along.

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    1. Juggling two lovers is not easy oh!
      lol

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  12. Gbems Gbems! Either way you swing, we are right in the thick of it with you!

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    1. Thanks dear!
      I should come and take classes from you o, seeing as you juggle both quite well ;)

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  13. Yay! Gbemi is back. Glad you wont be ending your love affair with Twitter. I love reading your twits.



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    1. Hahaha!
      Thanks for all the encouragement to not abandon this place :)

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  14. Gotta say i hail all of you who blog and tweet. I dont think i can cop with the two...yet.
    All the best with your challenge Gbemi. May the best chick win..lol

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    1. Lol.
      Twitter is simultaneously the most useful and useless social network. I'm sure you'll love it. Come on board! :)

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  15. I know you're up to the challenge. Happy New Year and I'll be looking forward to your posts.

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  16. You could keep a journal for those thoughts you might not be willing to share. Whenever I swing by your tweets and it always seems like a party. So you are up to the task.

    Happy New Year

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  17. First met you via your side chic and she led me to your main steady chic on blogville. I would say she isn't all that bad. Since I enjoy your tweets a lot. I expect to enjoy your blog even much more. Happy new year!

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  18. I decided to start a blog and u are the 1st person I thought of asking for advice! Hope you got my email? You make blogging seem so easy! You can check it out at fivestarwoman.blogspot.com. Keep it up babes

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    1. I've been on your blog for the past hour.
      You inspire me, Tale.

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